Today, we got together four of the people who volunteered to help the group get up and running. We settled on some ground rules, which you can find here. Probably the one that is perhaps most surprising is the decision to limit the club to masturbation-only, even though all of us are big fans of oral. Even though we as individuals would enjoy oral, we thought it would be better for the group to be strictly JO:
Many guys who are curious, straight, or newly out might find JO-only to be a safer format, with more built-in boundaries.
- JO is pretty much the safest activity you can possibly have, so the group will be a place where everyone can feel confident of their health.
- Introducing oral could get awkward if some people are doing oral and others are jerking. We don’t want to foster any feelings of exclusion or pressure.
- Of course, if you’re having a grand old time with someone and want to do more, you can always exchange numbers and meet up outside the group.
Because there were so few of us, we were able to come back to my apartment and test out the ground rules. A very good time was had by all! We got to experiment with new kinds of lube, practiced asking for consent, and made sure we had good technique once we had it. Now we just need to find a way to expand and get the whole list together!
Next steps
- We need to find a location (or several locations) where we can have our meetings.